Nige 54 - The Column



February 2004


Gentlemen!

It's February and that means one thing - Valentine's Day.

Without doubt Valentine's Day night is one of THE BEST nights in the year to pick up babes no matter what day Valentine's Day falls. Why? Well, it's simple really - every babe who is out at the bars and clubs is single because all of those in relationships are at dinner or at the movies with their dorky boyfriends. Combine this with the lonely hearts factor and you are guaranteed success if you apply the necessary tactics.

For a great example of such success on a Valentine's Day evening, grab your copy of "Around The World In 80 Babes!" and turn directly to Chapter Eleven.

Now, let's dig deep into that mailbag and see what we find!
Nigester!

Here's a question I have received a variety of different answers from so I thought I would ask the master......"How long should I wait before calling a chick?"

Thanks,

James - Noosa, Queensland.

P.S. Love the book and your monthly column rocks!

James,

Would you believe me if I said to you that, "it doesn't really matter?"

As you are probably aware, literally everyone has a theory as to how many days you should wait before calling a chick after she gives you her phone number, but the fact is there is no real definitive answer to that question. That's why I never care. I call her when I feel it is appropriate. Sometimes it is the next day, sometimes it is a few days later and sometimes it could be a week later. It depends on when you are available, when she is available and a whole heap of other factors.

More importantly though, deciding on when to call a chick should NEVER be an issue. If it is, your gameplan is horribly wrong. You see, the weakness out there in the dating world is that people tend to believe that there needs to be a set of rules for this part of the dating process when really, it is just a bunch of shit. Who cares when you call because if you wooed her sufficiently when you met her, she isn't going to care when you call because hopefully you have put her in a frame of mind whereby she is literally sitting by the phone. If your left your impression, she is probably thinking "the sooner you call the better" because she is waiting with bated breath for you to bend her over, spank her behind and show her the true definition of hard core action!

So James, stop thinking and start doing! Either make the call and keep up the momentum you generated when you met, or you just might miss out altogether.

Regards,

The Nigester
Nige 54,

Mate, if I look at the stats and assess my yearly tally, I bang about 12 quality girls a year - roughly one a month. How many do I need to become a fully fledged "player?"

Adam - Cronulla, New South Wales.

Adam,

Now that is an interesting question, but the stats work like this...

Most single guys should be going out about two or three times a week looking for new babes. So if you go out three times a week for fifty weeks, that's one hundred and fifty nights at the bars & clubs. From there you should focus on two quality babes a night - that's three hundred quality babes. But realistically on some nights you will focus purely on one hot babe, so let's round down to say, two hundred.

From those two hundred, I believe that a "player" should be able to bed twenty-five quality girls. The reason that figure is only one-eighth of two hundred is because out of the two hundred, half will probably have boyfriends and the other half won't answer their phone when you call them. But a fully fledged "player" will find his way around those obstacles and on average, will be banging a brand new girl every two weeks. That's a brand new girl every fortnight and by combining this with a full time job, family and sporting commitments and other extra-curricular activities, you're going to be a very busy boy.

But, if you spend the year overseas travelling, that number should be doubled to fifty quality girls a year - you're probably going out every night and mixing with international babes so if you're not doing at least one girl a week then don't even think about calling yourself a "player". But if you are any kind of celebrity (TV/radio personality, sports star etc), then you should easily manage two brand new girls every week - that's one hundred a year. And if you are a rock star then the sky is the limit - just ask Gene Simmons.

Achievement of this all comes down to time management and constant application to the cause - which, subsequently, every fully fledged "player" has in his skill set.

So Adam, in conclusion I think you need to lift your game. You're operating at less than 50% and as a result, letting yourself down. Time to take it to the next level, don't you think?

Nige 54
Hi Nige,

Me and some of my friends are going to a speed dating event next week. Just wondering if you have any tips on this new dating craze?

Thanks,

Jasmin - East Melbourne, Victoria

Hi Jasmin,

Speed dating can be A LOT of fun. So here are my DOs and DON'Ts that will ensure that your evening is a raging success.

DOs
  1. Your objective at Speed Dating is to meet new people, so be open minded and make sure you are in a fun and entertaining mood.

  2. Be prepared to push yourself into having conversations with people who you initially may think 'are not your type'. You never know, they might surprise you!

  3. Be realistic with your expectations. Speed dating is a spontaneous and random event so be prepared to be sitting opposite a vast array of people with varying backgrounds. If there is no chemistry, it is not the end of the world as someone else will be along in five minutes.

  4. Have an ace up your sleeve. For example, if you are sitting across from someone who could be an option, be prepared to challenge them with a slightly risque question such as, "So what do you prefer - true love or great sex?"

  5. Speed dating is all about meeting new people and having fun. So it is ok to reveal the interesting side to your personality - rather than hiding your real self behind a fake wall - as that is how you will attract the right person for you.

DON'Ts
  1. No matter how good or bad the conversation is going, do not talk about your ex-partners.

  2. Do not simply sit there, sell yourself and talk about what you do for a living. Think about interesting topics to talk about, show a genuine interest in the other person as they should then replicate this interest which will result in a more relaxed and enjoyable conversation. If they don't, suggest they read these tips!

  3. Do not get too drunk throughout the evening. There is no problem with having a couple of drinks but there is nothing worse than a person who is overly loud and obnoxious whereby they start to effect the conversations being had by the people around them.

  4. Do not open with a dating/sexual question...but then again, if you instantly feel the right vibe, it could be the question the both of you are talking about for years to come! In other words, do not be scared to take a chance.

  5. If you establish a connection, do not hesitate to follow up after the session has ended by planning a future date as soon as possible because that is why you are there - to meet people you can date in the future!
Have a great night!

Cheers,

Nige

Email: nige54@nige54.com