Nige 54 - The Column January 2005 Happy New Year! 2005 is already off to a sensational pace babe wise and with the response to last month's "2004 Nige 54 Awards" being that solid I have an abundance of new categories to think about throughout the year. Speaking of 2005, the question has to be immediately asked as to whether you have set your objectives for the coming year? By this I mean that you should be thinking of three words or phrases to describe the kind of babes that you want to be with this year compared to last year - a visualisation exercise if you will. For example, these three objectives could be "taller, hotter, older" meaning that you want to be with more model like babes, with better bodies and those who are also more mature which may, but not always, ensure a better personality. For some, especially for those who have had an ordinary 2004, these three objectives could be "female, breathing and under 40". But as outlined in 'Around The World In 80 Babes!' you should NEVER have to drop your standards that low. So instead maybe your three objectives are "blonde, big boobs and under 25". Whichever the case, ensure that your objectives match the outcomes you wish to achieve as taking the time to decide on these objectives is vitally important to ensure you begin 2005 on the right track. It is without question that these objectives will assist you to visualise and once you start to visualise, you will start to gravitate towards and attract these kinds of babes. On a slightly different track, I am currently deeply enthralled in Jenna Jameson's autobiography "How to Make Love Like a Porn Star" and it is close to being the best book I have ever read. If you stumble across a copy, make sure you have a read - that is, of course, only after you have read my book - as the pictures that accompany Jenna's sensational life story will do nothing less than blow you away. Oh and just one other thing......I have noticed that last year's pathetic male fashion that comprised of pink T-shirts has been replaced with pink polo shirts. Even worse is that a variety of idiot driven fashion labels are printing their logos underneath the collars and thus forcing these collars to be turned up! Let me be clear on this, if you enjoy wearing a pink polo shirt with an upturned collar of any kind, you are a disgrace and need to be laughed at and ridiculed constantly. Ok, let's mail it! Nige, You've clearly banged a lot of chicks......but isn't it all about quality over quantity? Also, are you just the king of the one night stand but actually aren't any good because the girls don't come back for seconds......that is the true test is it not? Trixie - Cleveland, Ohio Trixie, In every respect it is very much about quality over quantity and as I promote throughout "Around The World In 80 Babes!", by tightening your confidence and adhering to some basic rules it is actually possible to maintain the quality while your quantity skyrockets. It really humours me that whenever someone hears about continued success in the babe department that they respond with the "quality over quantity" argument. In doing this they are making the automatic assumption that if you are with a lot of babes then they can not be of the best quality because they further assume that average babes are easier to get into bed. Nothing can be further from the truth. With the right strategies and a focus on building rapport which can be then transferred to immediate bedroom activities, there is no need to focus on babes that you do not find attractive. Maintaining the quality is the essence of any true player's ilk and in a perfect world, if the majority of guys constantly focussed on quality babes, it would force the underperforming babes to improve themselves whereby they had no option but to bring themselves back into the game on a physical, mental and emotional level. In relation to your "true test" question - yes, you are correct as one of the true tests is if the babes come back for seconds. Personally, I am a huge fan of my 'return ratio' - but as I am sensing just a touch of hostility in the tone of your question, perhaps Trixie (if that is your real name), your 'return ratio' is the ratio that is not up to scratch? Heh heh heh! Nige Nige 54 How do I go from a guy with a lot of hot girl friends to a guy who is banging those babes? Stephen - Gold Coast, Queensland Stephen, The problem that you and sooooo many guys out there face is that the hot babes you know have placed you in the 'friend box' because for as long as you have known them YOU have been too much of a pussy. As a result they will struggle to take you out of this box and place you into the 'shagging box'. Clearly your dream and the dream of many men is to make this transformation and enter yourself into their box in a timely manner and while it's not easy, let's begin. Now let's say that you know five hot babes who are your friends and who you have not had sex with. Stephen, if this sounds familiar this scenario makes you a full blown pussy. Not a player, not a ladies man but a pussy. However, by writing to me I hope you now realise this, which is the first step and NOW we can begin your transformation. What you have to do is to effectively transform yourself from pussy to sexual juggernaut and the first step in doing this is to stop calling them. Never ever text, phone or email these chicks again unless they contact you and in those instances, give them no love. You have been giving them way too much attention over the years for nothing in return so let's stop that. This will immediately confuse them as to why they do not feel as loved and then you can enter phase two. After not having seen any of them for a month, two months or even more, begin phase two by asking one of these hot babes (who does not have a boyfriend), out for a night on the town. Whoever you choose will be so excited to hear from you that she will immediately say yes. The difference compared to the past, is that when you meet her out you will be a new man - a man that is better looking, better presented and has a new confidence and perhaps, at times, a cocky attitude. To progress her to nudity you could employ many well known seduction techniques, but the language required for these strategies is pretty lame. So the best thing you can do is to spend the evening employing "System One" or the "54 Theorem" whichever is more appropriate and as is outlined in Chapter Two of 'Around The World In 80 Babes!' If successful, which you should be, understand that this babe may want a relationship. But again, from my book, you will know how to handle that. Ok, so now what? On to the next one? Sure, go for it but understand that some babes will simply be offended by your transformation and will only ever want to be your friend. Some may even not want to catch up at all. Your response......whatever! The fact is Stephen that this transformation process will clean out this friendship group, but that my friend is the idea. You have to change your attitude and mind set otherwise you will continue to attract hot babes but only ever end up as their friend. So once your mind set is altered and you start living for yourself, you will, over time become the sexual juggernaut you have always wanted and THEN you can experience the kinds of babes you have always wanted and THEN you can select, if you desire, the right girl to settle down with. Always remember that the hot babes who oppose your new stance and transformation process were never friends in the first place. Your real friends will respect this change and for making a decision to achieve better results in your life. However, what you will find is that the babes who no longer want to know you will eventually come back into your life as long as your transformation is consistent and you do not revert back to being a pussy. They will contact you at the most unexpected times and there is a good chance nudity will be a result - just run "System One". Stephen, you are on the verge of making 2005 the year of domination. No more girls that are friends who are simply wasting your time, just hot babes inside your bed as you re-launch yourself as a sexual juggernaut. And as you are living on the Gold Coast which is a Mecca for not only phenomenal babes but international goddesses, a part of me envies the adventure you are about to undertake. All the best! Nige 54 Nige, I have a question for you...how do you deal with poison jealous flatmates/friends? I have been having a great time with a happy-go-lucky young girl (19), but recently my girl has been coming out with criticisms that don't sound like her and seem to be coming from her friends (e.g. friends advising her that if he doesn't introduce you to his parents, he doesn't take you seriously!)...and this is after one month! How can I rescue this one - it's not so easy to explain to her that her closest friends want her to be as miserable as they are! Geoff - London, U.K. Geoff, Jealous flatmates/friends can be total bitches and in these kinds of situations it is important to remember here is that YOU are already getting action and therefore YOU are in the box seat to drive this relationship in the direction that you want it to go. The best way to deal with this is by being a man. If she questions or criticises your actions simply ask her, "are these your criticisms or are they questions your friends want you to ask?" If she answers that they are her questions state that you will introduce her to your parents but make her understand that she must allow a certain amount of time for you both to get to know each other first. The timeframe in which you introduce her to your parents has absolutely no reflection on your feelings for her. It only does in that bullshit world created by readers of uninspiring women's magazines. But if she answers that her friends are saying this, then simply tell her that her friends have no right to judge the status or your relationship based on their own pathetic rules taken from the latest copy of "Latest shitty advice for today's confused woman who has been watching too much Oprah". The determination of when you do things is up to you and her and not her friends. If she does not understand this, then she's a loser and you can ditch her for that very reason. But I'm tipping that when you insert your authority into the situation and start running the show again, she will actually agree and want to bang you even more. Silly questions/criticisms like the ones she is asking need to be nipped in the bud immediately. Also remember women often ask these types of questions to subconsciously test to see if they still respect you. To ensure she maintains this respect don't be an asshole, don't get angry AND don't be a pussy. Simply maintain your masculinity and in turn you are telling her 'how it is going to be' and no matter what her friends say, she will respect your stance......and how you make her moan every Sunday morning. Be the man. Nige Email: nige54@nige54.com