Nige 54 - The Column



November 2005


Ladies & Gents,

As 2005 begins to draw to a close, it is nearly time for the presentation of the 2005 Nige 54 Awards, otherwise known as 'The Nigesters'.

To be nominated for a 'Nigester' there is no real set criteria other than a person or an establishment making an outstanding contribution to life, partying, nudity and all round non-stop madness that inspires everyone around this person or establishment to enjoy life to the full. Consequently, a person or establishment who inspires the exact opposite of this must also be recognised to ensure this patheticness is laughed at and hopefully never repeated.

The categories will be similar to last year so to refresh your memory, check out the December 2004 column and as of RIGHT NOW you can email through your nominations for this year's awards.

Ok then, let's mail it!
Nigester,

I love reading your monthly column and I can definitely relate to the many issues you discuss as let's face it, I need the assistance! I also loved reading your book 'Around The World In 80 Babes!' and I have started to have success with your pick up theories - 'System One' & the '54 Theorem'.

But there seem to be a number of websites and books popping up all over the place with various "experts" offering advice on how to seduce girls and how to pick up.

So who is right and who is wrong? I am going to my best mate's birthday this weekend (where there will be loads of hot chicks) and I am becoming quite confused as to which strategy I should use. Help!

Lawrence - Sydney, New South Wales

Lawrence,

That is a great question considering the amount of media coverage 'picking up' has been receiving over the last few months.

So, where do I start...ok...now, before I wrote 'Around The World In 80 Babes!' the internet was not as proficient as it is today and the websites and books that existed were pretty lame. I remember checking out book stores and I could hardly find one book on how to 'pick up' and if I did, the books were normally found in the bargain bins and the strategies contained within them were pretty ordinary. But over the last five years, things have changed and you can now find a variety of sites devoted to picking up and seducing women. The majority of these sites are not very good, but there are a couple which are excellent, (infact it is quite scary as to how some guys have dedicated their whole life to this) and these websites focus on two major areas - attraction and seduction.

Upon reading these sites I discovered that sub-consciously I was already doing most of the attraction and seduction techniques without even knowing it. To me it just made sense and by reading the information on these websites I found out more reasons why I was having so much success. So as you know, I have since turned my stories and theories (most notably and as you pointed out 'System One' and the '54 Theorem') into a book, but to update you let me outline the difference between attraction and seduction strategies and how they tie into my theories in 'Around The World In 80 Babes!'
  • The basic premise is that attraction is not a choice. Therefore this theory states that if you can make a woman attracted to you, she does not have a choice but to be drawn towards you and in turn, will want to be with you. Obviously there could be a variety of factors that might prevent you closing the deal such as her having a boyfriend, but the best attraction experts in the world have a number of 'boyfriend blocker' strategies. Personally, I would rather spend time attracting someone who is available, but the thinking behind this strategy is very sound.

  • Attraction experts say that the best way to attract women towards you is to have a cocky & funny attitude. This is the attitude I have always had whereby I have always felt that women are more attracted to confident guys who can make them laugh. I have always seen this as common sense because nice guys always finish last in the dating game.

  • Being cocky & funny also means that you should 'break her balls' and tease her every chance you get. The hotter the girl the more you should do this because hot women are used to guys constantly agreeing with them and being super nice. I talk about this in some length in 'Around The World In 80 Babes!' as I encourage guys to stop being pussies, to hold girls accountable where necessary and to tease them if they say or do anything silly. These techniques are massive attraction techniques which, if done correctly, work 90% of the time.

  • Winning over her friends through these strategies is always important in a group situation because you are impressing the friends while giving your target less attention. If you can do this is a stylish and confident way her friends will be encouraging her to go home with you.

  • Have fun. This is a huge Nige 54 strategy I believe that first and foremost everything you do in the dating game should always be about fun. The fact is that women love to hang out with guys who love to have fun and if you can combine this with confidence, humour and 'breaking her balls' then she is going to struggle to stay away from your bedside.

  • After you have attracted a hot babe and you start dating, keep her attracted to you by not calling her everyday and instead creating some scarcity around your time. Less attention equals better results and this strategy prevents you turning into a pussy who she will eventually discard.
Overall, these attraction strategies are great. I speak about most of them in 'Around The World In 80 Babes!' as they are very inline with the Nige 54 way of life and you should utilise as many of them as possible when you are playing the game.

Seduction techniques are a little different and they are defined as follows:
  • Seduction revolves around Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP which Tony Robbins bases most of his theories on. Some of the NLP techniques are boarding on hypnosis and if you take it to the extreme you can effectively put hot women in a trance-like state which enables you to do whatever you like as you know how to trigger their feelings and thought processes.

  • Seduction techniques begin with talking to women about an adventure you may have had and the feelings it generated or asking a woman to imagine how they felt when they were lying on a beach on a secluded island for example. Through this type of conversation you can find out the type of feelings women enjoy and then you can replicate those feelings into other parts of the conversation and then, if appropriate, relate it to sex. Then they start associating the words and feelings you are describing to sex......they start thinking about sex with you......can you see where this is going? It's the total definition of seduction.

  • You can also ask them things like 'what makes an incredible kisser?' and then you know how they like to be kissed. Also, during conversation you might say something like 'I just wanted to strip away all of those feelings...' and by acting out taking off your shirt when you say the words 'strip away', the woman will sub-consciously start thinking about what you look like naked. It's very cheeky isn't it?

  • Seduction techniques also include how to touch a girl - like on the back of the neck or the small of the back every time you leave the bar to go to the bathroom. This is very subtle but combined with the other strategies, it all starts to build up.

  • Variations of these techniques can also be extended into the bedroom where, for example, if a woman says, "this is so bad, we shouldn't be doing this," simply agree and keep going as she will not stop if you agree with her. On the contrary she will stop your nudity process if you disagree and start trying to persuade her as to why you should keep going. Again, very cheeky stuff.
If you know what you are doing, seduction techniques can be very effective and a lot of fun, but they do take time to master compared to attraction techniques which you can learn almost instantly. Also, the specific language you need to use to make seduction techniques work can sound very lame and many girls will simply think that you are weird when you approach them with this.

So who's right and who's wrong? Well the answer is that YOU have to find the style and strategy that suits you. I think the huge advantage of my advice is that it is based on real stories so you can witness the actual application of the theories ('System One' and the '54 Theorem') when you read the book. Seduction techniques can be an advantage but I think you should use them to compliment your other strategies, rather than being the basis of them. Therefore if you use 'Around The World In 80 Babes!' and the information contained on my website as your base and then combine this with some attraction and seduction techniques, you are guaranteed to improve you results as you will be armed with that many skills that common sense dictates that you will succeed.

But to be more specific, what strategies should you apply at your best mate's birthday?
  1. Being a party filled with hot babes, it is essential you follow my advice in relation to your presentation, your state of mind and level of confidence. These must be at all time highs.

  2. Next, as soon as you start speaking with the babes, your attraction strategies must be brought immediately into play. Remember, be confident, funny and 'bust her balls' whenever you get the chance as most guys will just stand there being nice. Your attitude should be almost boarding on 'I don't give a shit'. Also remember that during this time, many of these babes will be trying to work you out. They will be asking 'Who does this guy think he is? Giving me shit, making fun of me (and making me laugh!) and then he walks away if he's the coolest thing on earth?!' So while they are doing this, use this time to circulate the room and repeat steps 1 and 2 on every hot babe you meet.

  3. Ok, so by doing this it will soon become clear as to who responds to you the best - the second that becomes clear, engage 'System One'. Put simply, get her details and organise a time to catch up. But, if it is 'that kind of party', engage the '54 Theorem' instead. This means that the second you have gained sufficient rapport (and perhaps used a couple of seduction techniques) and maybe having even kissed, find out if she's into trying something daring. If she's hot and great fun to hang out with, she will say yes and then suggest the craziest place at the party that she should have sex with you right now! As I have found with the '54 Theorem', if this type of comment is said with the right tone and with the never fail cheeky grin AND you make this suggestion at the right time of the evening, there could be a very good chance of her saying yes. Then you're in heaven! If not, at the very least she will laugh her ass off at the suggestion and she will know to wear her best lingerie on your first date - but that is only because you have told her to do so!!

  4. Then as soon as she leaves with a kiss goodbye from your sexy self, repeat Step 3 on next hot babe.
Lawrence, can you see how to run the process here? You must learn this process, add YOUR OWN STYLE and do this over and over, again and again and trust me, you will get better every time you try. Oh yes, and don't forget that this process - let's call it the 'Birthday Bonanza' - can be replicated not just at any of your mates' birthdays, but your own birthday and even your ex-girlfriend's birthday! Just remember to maintain your class, style and professionalism to make sure you don't get too drunk and start hitting on your best mate's new girlfriend.

That, I suppose, is the only danger to look out for - well that and the fact that people will stop inviting you to birthday parties because YOU keep getting all the action - and yes, I can relate to that!

Then, and this is the best bit, once you start experiencing success you gain a thing called 'performance confidence' - on the basketball court, this was what Michael Jordan was all about - and once you have that, just like Number 23, you will be unstoppable.

I wish you well.

Nigester
Nige 54,

I am from The States (New Jersey) and I am going to visit my brother who is studying abroad in Rome. We are going to take a three night trip to Amsterdam and I have no problem paying for girls.

Now tell me, if you have been there, is it good or just so so and do you know how much I will probably have to pay for a couple of broads? Whatever the case I'd appreciate your feedback.

Your buddy,

Ryan - New Jersey, U.S.A.

G'day Ryan,

Amsterdam is a sensational place. I was there about five years ago as a part of a Contiki tour and had a brilliant time.

But considering I was a part of a Contiki tour, I had no need to sample the "ladies of the night" due to the abundance of horny babes on my tour. Nevertheless, after visiting a live sex show (which was more hilarious than anything else), we did take an extended tour of the red light district to check out the kind of babes that were on offer.

As you may know, the hookers in Amsterdam stand in front of a full length window and if you want to engage their services, you walk up to the window, negotiate a price and walk in. From my understanding there is a bedroom in the back where you get to work. Now, in terms of the quality of babes, we walked past all types - there are the older women, the MILFS, the younger babes who look like the girl next door and the traditional hooker types. We walked up and spoke to a few of them and from the prices they were stating, the old saying applies whereby "you pay for what you get". So if you want the hot chicks, expect to dig deep.

But the overall quality of the girls was nowhere near as good compared to those I saw in Rio de Janeiro. Rio babes are literally the hottest things on earth and a "24 hour as much sex as you like" scenario with two hot babes at the same time will cost you nothing compared to Amsterdam. In Rio the girls are yours for the whole night whereas in Amsterdam, the girls need to make the cash to pay the rent for the window they occupy so once it's over, you are out the door as they get ready for their next customer.

Therefore my summary in this, unless you are in Rio, there is no point paying for sex because it will probably be overpriced and not that great. BUT, as I have never paid for sex in either Amsterdam or Rio, I could be very wrong. So if you go ahead with it, I would love to hear your feedback.

The alternative is of course to hit the bars and pick up some home grown stunning Dutch babes who I am certain would love to be spanked by some cool guys from the USA. And hey, if you don't meet any locals, I am sure there will be an abundance of babes from the Scandinavian countries to tempt your desires.

Whichever the case, I think you're in for an awesome time!

Best Regards,

Nige 54

P.S. Make sure you have a copy of 'Around The World In 80 Babes!' in your suitcase for a quick reference guide!
Hi Nige

Love the book and love the column mate :) I have a question for you - do you think it is possible to stay just friends with female friends that you find attractive? I have never been able to and recently hooked up with a long time friend who I always thought was attractive but we had been nothing more than friends until recently.

Do you think it is a good idea to let this happen? She has just gone overseas for a month or so and I'm not sure what to do when she gets back.

Cheers mate.

Markuz - Windsor, Queensland

Markuz,

Glad to hear you loved the book.

Ok, in relation to your issue - mate, I touched on this in the September 2004 column whereby I outlined how I have never been a fan of guys who are friends with hot chicks for a long time and then eventually hook up. Like, with all respect, where is the skill in that? All you are doing is hanging around together until you both think "what the hell?" Yeah cool, you get some hot pussy, but don't you want to be able to get hot pussy more efficiently? Think about how much time you put in to get that action. There are better ways and you have already read about them!

Having said that, if the two of you now end up in a long term relationship which works, then all good.

So what happens now? She's overseas - probably getting some action - and who knows how she will feel about you when she gets back. The interesting thing is that you might actually be able to be REAL friends because the sexual tension has gone. I trust you haven't been emailing her every day and acting all soppy (I talk about that all the way back in the September 2003 column). Shame on you if you have.

But if you do decide to hang out as friends that means you CAN NOT start to become all jealous or protective wherever she talks about another guy or if you are out and another guy approaches her. If you do that then you are simply a parasite on the dating world as you are doing nothing more than restricting her dating pool AND yours.

So when she gets back either go out with her or have her as a friend. It's either one or the other and NOT both. I have a feeling that you should perhaps remain as friends. If you do make that decision and you stick to that, you'll gain more respect from her than you have ever imagined and you will gain a true life long female friend.

Best Regards,

Nige

Email: nige54@nige54.com