Nige 54 - The Column October 2004 Can you feel it? If you know what I'm talking about, you'll be able to sense "that feeling" in the air. For those who are spending too much time at work, WAKE UP! In Australia winter is well and truly over and with the warm Spring sun now appearing on a daily basis the short skirts are starting to appear in the streets, there are more babes at the bars at night and that feeling, for those still stuck behind their desks, is the smell of nudity in the air! Summer time is approaching boys and girls and as such everyone should have noticed their statistics improving over the last few weeks - The Nigester sure has - as the babes start to come out of their winter hibernation. If not, you should know exactly which book to purchase to ensure you are fully armed for the summer months and especially the all important Spring Racing Carnival in Melbourne. On a personal note, it has been a hectic month for Nige 54 as I had to combine my usual debaucherous nighttime activities with the "official" launch of "Around The World In 80 Babes!" which included my birthday/book launch double celebration at Melbourne's most exclusive nightclub. I have also been bombarded with a massive variety of questions, but thankfully I can refer you to the following link where you will find a recent interview I had with "The Media Man" which should answer many of the frequently asked questions. The Media Man Interview But for the not so frequently asked questions, mail on! Nige 54 I'm 25 and my fiance has been cheating on me. We were meant to be getting married in February. Do I forgive her? Jamie - Hobart, Tasmania Jamie, In a word - NO. Who cares what her excuse or reason is for doing this? The fact is that she is not for you. If she was, she would not have cheated on you - simple as that. People may say that, "everyone deserves a second chance," but your mentality should be that "with me, babes only get one". She blew it and it is her loss. Ok, with that clear, now it is time for your re-launch as a sexual juggernaut. At this point in your life nothing is more important. Now, I know I say this a lot but there are SO MANY chicks out there. You probably can't see that right now as you drown in your pool of self sorrow but BELIEVE ME, you have to pull yourself out of this mess (writing to me was correct move number one) and understand that there are hundreds of girls that are 10 times better than you ex-fiance that can do the type of things to you that will leave you gasping for air as you realise your wildest fantasies. But the only way you can find out is to do it for yourself. So rather than wasting time trying to work out why she did this etc, realise that you are only 25 and the world is at your feet. Immediately buy a copy of my book, turn to Chapter 4, move to London, head immediately to the "Zoo Bar" and start banging Swedish babes. Then, once you've re-gained your confidence, book a 29 day Contiki tour around Europe and in 29 days time you will not even remember this slapper's (sorry ex-fiance's) name. WOOHOO! Remember Jamie - the world is yours! Nige 54 Nigester, What are your thoughts on internet dating? Phil - Donvale, Victoria. Philmeister, Great question considering the popularity of internet dating right now. However, I can't help you personally here so I have consulted a very good friend who has had some phenomenal and some very ordinary experiences with internet dating and he had the following comments: Internet dating can be a great way to meet babes and you would be surprised as to the amount of quality women out there who use internet dating to meet guys. By the same token there are many women on the internet who lie about their appearance, background or current situation. Therefore be careful, so if you see smoke, there's always going to be fire. All internet dating sites purely exist to make money and as a result there are many options and plans to choose from. The best option to purchase is one that allows you to search the profiles and also has a "contact me" preference which allows women to contact you for free. Then you can sit back and see what comes in. Make sure you have a top class photo of yourself on your profile and not a photo of your genitals! Also, in your description do not simply write down who you are and what you do. In most cases, women respond to the profiles that engage their FEELINGS so you have to outline how your work, your life and your goals make you feel, not merely what they are - for more detailed information on this check out Grant Adams' website www.net2bed.com - the best advice out there on successful internet dating. Do not talk to anyone who does not have a photo. 99% of the time they will be overweight - and perhaps a little scary! The major problem you will face is that there are too many guys involved in internet dating who immediately bombard any babe that is even half good looking with endless emails. As a result women know they can pick & choose and therefore you will find a lot of average babes with major attitudes. Overall, you have to be efficient with your process. Remember she will have a number of options at any one time so do not waste time with countless emails and text messages. Simply exchange details, chat a couple of times and then organise to meet up. But when you do organise to catch up DO NOT meet for coffee or lunch. Coffee and lunch meetings are for building business relationships, not dating - so instead meet up for drinks at a cool bar or partake in an activity you both enjoy. Well Phil, there you have it. Personally it's not for me as I think you can have much more fun chasing babes at bars and clubs, but perhaps it might be for you. Nigester Nige 54 I've been reading "Around The World In 80 Babes!" and employing your legendary "System One" method with excellent success. However, I am finding that the babes I am getting naked with are becoming very clingy. How do I let these babes down nicely without being branded as a bastard? Ryan - North Carolina, U.S.A. Ryan, Great to hear that "System One" is working nicely for you over in North Carolina as it sounds like you are dominating but are unable to "break clean" when necessary. There are ways to do this without being an ass (which many guys can not do) and that is to make it clear in the beginning what you are looking for. Remember, while you are clear on the fact that "having fun" does not mean a relationship, I ask you if you are communicating that effectively to the babes? To ensure they understand this, you should always say things like, "I am initially looking to have some fun and then we can take it from there." A statement like this gives you two options: a) to let her go when you get bored or, b) keep her because she blows your mind and you can envision a future. If you choose Option A, the key is "how to get rid of her nicely when she doesn't get the message" and the best way to do that is as follows. When she calls and wants to catch up simply say, "Sorry, I can't make it tonight because I have a date." She may be disappointed with that comment but you can then always say, "You knew from the start I was only looking for fun because at this point in my life I am actively dating." If you need to be a little more serious the statement, "I'm sorry but I don't see a future for us," will, in most cases, result in her hanging up the phone. Ryan, this may seem like a harsh call, but it is essentially a fair call - otherwise you'll be spending your evenings watching DVDs with clingy babes who are trying to suck you into a relationship. Re-read Chapter Four and keep banging! Nige 54 Email: nige54@nige54.com