Nige 54 - The Column September 2003 Gentlemen! Hello and welcome to 'the column' which is the only column where you can find the answers to ALL of the questions in relation to dating, relationships and of course, babes! Like everything I do, this column, besides having a serious and honest focus, is intended to be a hell of a lot of fun. So email me with any question, any scenario and anything you want answered that will assist you getting action more often, with hotter chicks and on a more regular basis to nige54@nige54.com. On the 15th of every month a new column will be hitting your screens so make sure you click back on a regular basis for the latest thoughts, strategies and ideas that are guaranteed to improve your dating and relationship lifestyle. So with the formalities out of the way, let's dive into this month's mailbag! Nige 54! Considering your vast experience in the pick up arena I was wondering what your thoughts were on what to do when one finds himself in a drought? The common belief 'out there' is that you should drop yourself back into the lower grades - as you would in cricket or football - to build up your confidence. In other words, lowering your standards before re-launching yourself back onto the mega babes? Damien - Brisbane, Queensland. Damo! I am fully aware of this theory you mention and it reeks of crap. The major problem with the theory of dropping yourself down a grade to build confidence (like you would in a sporting situation) is that you actually drop yourself into a tougher market. Now not a lot of guys are aware of this, but it is often harder to attract average girls than hot babes. Why you ask? Well the problem with average girls is that every guy thinks he has a chance. Therefore and as unfortunate as it sounds, average girls are hit on by the vast majority of guys - especially five minutes before 2am. 'Surely not!' you yell back me, but just go into any bar or club and spend a bit of time looking at the type of girls guys spend their time trying to hit on. Men are often too intimidated to speak with hot babes and thus spend their time with girls who they perceive are 'in their league'. The problem with this is that these average or slightly above average girls have become very good at playing guys against each other all night. They love giving out their number so their phone doesn't stop beeping the next day with text messages they will never respond to. So if any of you are wondering why average girls all seem to have such pretentious attitudes these days, it is because dickhead guys are giving these types of girls too much attention! So by dropping your standards and placing yourself in this pool of patheticness where average girls actually think they have the right to have attitude, all you will achieve is ruining your confidence even further. As now not only are you failing to get naked with the hot babes you are used to, but now you are forced to fight with the peasants for the affections of a girl who isn't really that attractive in the first place. Even if you do achieve attracting one of these average girls, why would you ever think that this will improve your confidence? Yes you have got some action but it is a whole different ballgame in the major leagues. So what is the answer? The answer is to never leave the major leagues. Surround yourself with hot babes, stay focussed and present yourself every night, night after night, again and again no matter how long the drought lasts. By doing so and continually working on attracting hot babes you create a high standard for yourself. And as most hot babes are rarely spoken to by guys that are too intimidated to even say 'hello', you will be doing a lot less work to compete for prizes most guys never even know exist. Remember that a hot babe is more likely to sleep with you if you have the personality and approach which indicates that you only associate yourself with hot women. Most mega babes are not stupid and can spot you a mile away if you are a minor league player trying to sneak into the majors for one night only. So therefore be a FULL TIME major league player and then you will find that a funny thing starts to happen - the hot babes start competing for you! Thanks for your question Damo, it's a great way to start this column and always remember that you should only be using your energy on hot, bonkable babes. Anything else is just a waste of time. All the best, Nige 54 Big Guy! Love the sound of your book 'Around The World In 80 Babes!' and have just ordered myself a copy. Now, my question is this...I'm 22 and my girlfriend of four years is leaving to go overseas for a year, maybe longer. She is my everything, I am going to miss her like crazy and no matter what happens I want the possibility of hooking up with her again in the future. How can I guarantee this? Is the answer to stay in regular contact and perhaps even visit her when I have saved up enough cash? Counting down the days until my copy of the book arrives! Mark - Brighton, Victoria. Mark! Your plight is a common one for guys around your age and as I outline in Chapter 4 entitled 'How to Get Laid - All of the Time!' there is only one plan of action... While she is overseas give her little, if any attention. Mate, the fact is that after four years you have to accept that your time is up. She has probably told you that she is going overseas for 'new experiences' and it does not matter how well you think you know this girl, 'new experiences' means that she is going overseas to bang guys. After four years of a loving relationship with you she is going to turn into the dirty little girl she has always wanted to be and she'll be giving out blowjobs on the beach in the Greek Islands and having threesomes in Ibiza while trying every debaucherous act known to man. You will always have a place in her heart but expect her to forget all recollection of you when some huge black guy with a nine inch cock is bending her over on Miami Beach. So the best thing you can do is move on as soon as you wish her goodbye at the airport. Start going out with the mates you used to always ditch when you went home to 'make love' to your girlfriend. Start chasing the girls that always gave you the eye at the bar and plan your own Contiki tour in a few years time. But whatever you do, DO NOT send soppy emails every second day. Maybe email her once a month and perhaps call her on her birthday, but that's it. Then she will miss you because you are not giving her the attention she craves and the debaucherous acts she is committing may not seem that great if you don't care. Then when she returns from overseas, she will come back to the man who doesn't care what she did overseas. She will never come back to a pussy who writes to her every day telling her how much he misses her. Remember now is the true test of what kind of man you are and the next few months will determine your destiny as man or pussy. So the question is - who do you want to be? A copy of my book should be in you mail box within the week so learn Chapter 4 by heart and go out and pound some hot chicks! Best Regards, Nige 54 Mr. 54 I'm 30 and I am dating an unbelievably hot babe who has just turned 22. I want to be with this girl forever but one of mates questions the longevity of this relationship. Can you see anything wrong with this age difference? Regards, Paul - London, U.K. Paul, I'm sorry to say that your mates are spot on. Obviously I'm not in your shoes and I can not judge how much she loves you, what you have discussed and whether she is genuine about her feelings towards you. However, even if you two are both tragically in love right now and believe that you will both spend the rest of you days together, there is one big danger. This hot babe can quite easily date you for three years, break up with you for whatever reason and then start a new life at the ripe old age of 25. You, on the other hand will be 33! Can you see the issue here? Paul, for her this relationship is a no risk investment. If it works out great and if not, oh well, she will just go to Europe at the pristine age of 25 and bang guys on a Contiki tour. You, on the other hand, could be left in a very deep hole after investing three of your prime years in a chick who will use you as a stepping stone to her next chapter in life. Chicks are famous for doing that. So mate, be careful. I don't know all the facts and maybe this girl is the one for you, but I would analyse her life situation very carefully. If she has already had a serious relationship, a few flings, travelled overseas, has a good career and is now focussed on building a life with you then great! But how many 22 year olds would have that much life experience and are ready to settle down? Remember mate, there are millions of chicks out there and no matter how much you love this girl, I'm sure you could find one hundred more that are hotter, sexier and more compatible. Best of luck, Nige 54 Email: nige54@nige54.com